Second chances, do they ever work?

  How many times have we been in the position of considering giving a person that hurt you a second chance? Whether that person is a friend, family or a lover doesn’t matter what matter is this : Will a second chance work or not? The question is not that easy. Firstly we need to think of whether we are ready to let go of the pain and forgive the person that hurts us and secondly we should think long and hard whether we need that person in our lives, if he or she is that important to us.

  I recently gave a second chance to someone who had hurt me in the past and I still wonder whether that was a good decision. He treats me better than the way he treated me in the past but still do I really need him in my life? The answer is yes. As weird as that sounds he makes me stronger, through him I found a way to defend myself and  realize that I shouldn’t let anyone make me feel bad about myself. Through his  bad behavior sometimes I get strength and that is a good reason to keep him in my life, a second chance that could work out.

 Before you decide to give second chances to people think of what they can offer to you and not what you can offer to them, cos clearly what you did offer in the past was enough for them to come back asking for more. Unfortunately relationships now (any kind of relationships) are about what can the other person offer you in return..So see all your offers and decide what is the best for you even if that means you have to give someone a second chance..

 Yours truthfully,

Xxx.